Judy Chapman

Judy Chapman founded Garden State Woman, Inc. in 1998 and the Garden State Woman Education Foundation 501(c)3 in 2007. In recognition of the need for women everywhere, including New Jersey, to take firmer control of their futures and their families’ futures - in a world that is still not equally balanced between the opportunities and rewards provided men and women - for equal efforts in many aspects of their personal and professional lives.

Website URL: http://www.gswoman.com

Putting Together Your Life Team

Judy ChapmanWhen our son Jonathan graduated from Georgetown four years ago we spoke with him about putting together his own “Life Team.” This is a concept all of us should consider for ourselves as well as for our kids as they start their working careers.

A few months after graduating from college my husband Jack arranged for Jonathan to interview and be interviewed by two financial advisors, two accountants, two lawyers and two insurance professionals with the idea that he would pick one of each, assuming the professionals all agreed they would be willing to take on Jonathan as a client. Jonathan went through the process and now has his Life Team in place, hopefully for years to come. All four professional advisors have skills that Jonathan will need as his life unfolds with increased complexity.

The discussion with the professionals focused on the facts that Jonathan was just starting out, his life at that point was uncomplicated. His income modest and, as a result, the time demands he would have on his “advisors” would be minimal. The short term fees they would earn from him would be low.

The upside was that as Jonathan progressed in his career and life his need for good advice in all four area covered by his Life Team would increase rapidly as would his ability to pay for professional services. In addition, as Jonathan became comfortable with his advisors, he obviously would be recommending them to his peer group, all also successful young people on the move up the ladder. In essence Jonathan becomes a farm system developing potential new clients for his advisors.

One key to successfully using this strategy for surrounding yourself with quality life-time advisors is to pick only potential advisors that you trust implicitly either because of previous experiences with them or because of strong referrals you have received to them. It is also important to pick advisors of an appropriate age. In Jonathan’s case all members of his Life Team are in their early 40s so they will grow together with over the long haul. It is also important to pick advisors who feel totally comfortable with whatever level of client you will be starting off and then over the long term. Ideally, it makes sense to introduce the advisors to each other so that they can benefit from you bringing them together as other members of the Life Team.

I can’t imagine any younger person who would not be well served by having her or his own Life Team. Life is certainly a contact sport in which all the players need their coaches. Think about it.

What Is Communication?

Human beings communicate verbally as well as with body language and actions. In a society that encourages freedom of speech, the opinion of the communicator is often presented as fact rather than a point of view.

We are inundated with opinion that is presented as fact. Many communicators have lost (if they ever had it) their ability to understand a dissenting point of view. When we speculate on the roots of the rudeness that prevails in our daily lives, we need only watch TV to see that there is little common courtesy. We find that tv anchors thrive on bashing others, we read newspaper accounts from supposedly respected journalists who are close-minded to any idea that is not part of their preaching. There seems to be a need for everyone to talk at once. What happened to the idea that we allow a person time to speak without interruption?

The internet has become an intensely negative voice in our culture. With anonymity (perceived), emotionally unstable individuals comb the medium for prey. Young people who have been raised in a culture preoccupied with sex and violence are no match for these perverted individuals. The internet with its boundless opportunity to share information and enrich the lives of many is a tool that often misrepresents and distorts. It can be a strong voice for educating the masses if they are aware that all information is not necessarily true.

The Garden State Woman website is an attempt to provide information to inspire, motivate and educate New Jersey women. We want you to be the best that you can be for you and your loved ones. How can we teach our children to be polite when all they see is people being rude to each other? Share your thoughts with us.

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